Make your goals attainable

Everybody is gonna tell you you've got to quit smoking crack, cold turkey or...

Or it doesn't count

Or you wont stay sober

Or you'll substitute addictions

Or the stock market will fall, housing prices will fall and the earths orbit will change and it'll all be YOUR fault

Ok, so the last one was stupid... at least I woke you up.

Why does any one want to have a goal?

... I'm fishing here... and you're right the answer I'm lookin for isn't what you'd think!

If you attempt to, if you set out to quit smoking crack... you gotta ask WHY?

is it for you?
is it for someone else?
is it so your kids won't be ashamed of you?
is it so you won't feel so ashamed around your kids?
(some of you can substitute parents for kids in the above two lines)
is it because you want a someone of the opposite sex to like you?

Why does any body want anything?

If you ask most anyone if they had aladins lamp and could get the Genie to give em anything in the world....

Most of em would ask for money.

Why?

So... you're tellin me what you really want is little pieces of paper with pictures of dead Presidents on em?

is that correct?

No, of course not.

What you want is the things money can get you.

The purpose of a goal is what it'll make you, what accomplishing that goal will make OF you as a person.

You CAN, you ABSOULTELY CAN still work on being a better person.. even if you're still using.

and you don't have to kick your self every time you fuck up.

You're already too good at kickin yourself,and it's not gotten you anywhere.

You can "slip".

You don't have to condem yourself, every 'slip' doesn't have to be a 'relapse'

What you say to yourself, you're Internal Self Talk determines how hard or how easy getting clean is gonna be... don't make it extra harder on yourself than it needs to be.



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These articles are for informational purposes only. Contact a licenced counselor if you're in crisis.