Sex Addiction, Crack and ED

For male crack smokers from the 70's generation, crack has more to do with the shame of not being able to get hard (or hard enough) to succesfully have sex...

Erectile Dysfunction, or E.D.

I wrote an article on another of my blogs: RepairManual4SelfDestructiveBehavior.blogspot.com about this...


There are two kinds of ED, you can't get hard at all OR
you can only get hard enough to piss yourself off


So what do you do when the sinking sensation... the devastating concept that all of the sex you're ever gonna have is past tense?

You wallow in self pity.

What happens when you take the very first blast?

All you can think about is getting laid... and you dare not humiliate yourself with a date with a 'functional woman', so what do you think of (the use of the word 'think' is really more like stinkin thinking)???


You think of finding yourself a crack ho.

http://repairmanual4selfdestructivebehavior.blogspot.com/2008/05/erectile-dysfunction-and-crack-smoking.html

more coming soon on this topic, I've lots to say about it and not much free time to post...




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Why some men smoke crack? ED

From an article I wrote on RepairManual4SelfDestructiveBehavior.blogspot.com


Many men who smoke crack, well the ones that are from the 70's generation, the ones that are 50 something, smoke crack because they're sex addicted... Roughly 66% of all men over 45 have some form of Erectile Dysfunction, they either can't get hard or they don't get hard enough... or have a short fuse.

For many men, the first sensation they get when they take the first blast from crack is that all they can think of is SEX, for me, it's an overwhelming obsession that takes over completely when I exhale the very first blast.

I'm a recovering incest survivor, I'm dissociated, which means:

I'm not the first little boy that my Grandfather was caught with AND I don't remember anything from age 5 until age 10.

My sex abuse started when my parents separated, my Dad (who was an orphan) was drinking heavily, my Mom took us and my brothers to live with her parents. My Grandmother was killed on my 10th birthday... my perpetrator (GrandDad) moved away soon afterwards and it was like I came out of a coma, I was weird... my body was chronologically 10 but emotionally I was still 5.


I don't have any recollection of sex abuse from those 5 years but it appears that I associated sex, sexuality, love, being sexually desirable with my entire self worth.

ie:

If a women desired me sexually, I was worthwile, if she cheated on my I wasn't "worth the paper I was printed on"

This is irrational, but the tremendous power associated with those emotions overpowered me.

in short, once you go years with out being able to have sex succesfully, and you get your hydraulics back... it's like you have a second chance to be a man, your virility comes back...

for years you thought ALL your sex life was PAST TENSE, and now you get another chance!

crack whores (a terribly insensitive, sexist, degrading way to look at women who are as addicted as you are... if, as a man, if you could trade sex for crack you might just do the same) crack ho's are easy.

If you party with women who smoke crack... it's probably the only chance you have of getting laid.

more on the article on my other blog:

http://repairmanual4selfdestructivebehavior.blogspot.com/2008/05/erectile-dysfunction-and-crack-smoking.html





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We already F*cked up...

I'm often amazed at the simple reason many people spend their whole paycheck on crack... to the point that they get evicted.

Why would we do that?

Most of the time it's because, internally... we've come to the erroneous conclusion that we've already fucked up.

The rationalization , with slight variations, goes like this:

We've committed some gigantic error, lost our drivers licence, we've got a felony on our arrest record, we've contracted some kind of STD...

we've gotten fired from a job, we live in a small town that every one knows about our messed up reputation...

The self destructive behavior comes from an internal decision.

This internal decision usually is like an iceberg:

the part that is conscious is the 10% of the iceberg that's above the water
the part that is unconscious is the 90& below the water.

Our unconscious is a LOT bigger than we are.

it includes beliefs that are 'woven into' the lens that we view the world through.
Tony Robbins calls these beliefs: Pre-Suppositions, Global Beliefs, the Paradigm we live in (or inherited from our family of origin)

They are characterized by the following (internal) statements:

"Life is..."
"People are..."
"Screw them before they screw you"
"...the rich get richer and the poor get poorer"

let's take that last one:
That statement is based on the media, and the circles you travel in.
The media is DEMANDING a recession, and they won't let up on the news stories that claim our economy is going down the tubes.

The circles you travel in?
face it, Hockey players don't hang around chess players.

Take your 6 closest friends and average their incomes...
yours will fall within that median.

WE Smoke till all our money is gone because internally we've just given up.
We already fucked up, so why bother.


Future posts coming on this whole presupposition concept, it's based on the science of N.L.P.
Neuro Linguistic Programming

in NLP, the idea is that all we can hold in consciousness is 7 plus or minus 'bits' of information, 7 'chunks'

we do not consciously think to breath or command our heart to beat, or balance while we walk...


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These articles are for informational purposes only. Contact a licenced counselor if you're in crisis.