In the post WW2 time frame psychologists found in the vast clinical data... there were no alcoholics unless and until there were also co-alcoholics
They never found one without there also being the other
Hence my position that one cannot be a "victim in a vacuum"
Codependency 101you cannot be manipulated without being manipulatABLE
Fool me once - shame on you, fool me 6 times and I'm deliberately setting this up for some sort of unconscious, irrational secondary gain
resentment is to addiction what oxygen is to fire
where there's smoke, there's fire
you can't be an addict without first being a codependent
you can't be codependent without harboring resentments
a codependent CANNOT see that they're codependent anymore than a fish can see the fishbowl
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